If there is one question we are asked more often than any other, I would say it is “How do I achieve balance”?
It seems like a very difficult question but the answer is surprisingly simple… here’s the hook. While most of seek an answer to fix something in our life it is really the instruction manual that we need.
How many times have you asked an expert a question, read an article or listened to a leader and to them the answer is so clear? If you are like most of us, this has happened to you countless times.
As Modern Day Spartan’s we constantly challenge the way we look at knowledge transfer, information and education. In our extensive practice and personal development, of both ourselves and others, we have found the solution to your problems do not lie in an answer but rather in a process or a roadmap.
In our extraction of those who really seem to have the world by the balls and live a balanced and happy life we have found some really simple commonalities. We have extracted what the best in the practice do and we have also built a “how to manual” to help you implement it. First let’s look at the characteristics of the most balanced people and what they do to achieve this elusive and desirable way of life.
Clarity – They know what balance looks like to them. They don’t just see it in their head, they write it down. There is a certain gap in comprehension from visualization to actually writing something down. The human brain is wired to visually conceptualize outcomes and end-games, which is incredibly helpful but the sequential rationalization and structural development of an idea becomes a lot harder to bring to fruition when it only exists in the abstract. Here is an example of our defined concept of balance. We call if our balance wheel…
They are goal oriented but more importantly they are outcome oriented. The difference may seem minor but it can be a major dynamic shift. As an example, you could have a goal to loose weight. The outcome however could be that you want to be more active and healthy. So what would happen if you decided to include a physical routine of exercise that included build mass through supplements, weightlifting and other strength training exercises. At the end of the day you may not lose weight on the scale but you could lose inches, reshape your body and still achieve your desired outcome of being fit and healthy even though you may not have accomplished your goal. Understanding the difference and putting more emphasis (and clarity on) your desired outcomes will help you accomplish your balance at a much faster rate.
They fail; often, forward and well! That’s crazy talk right? What in the hell does that mean? Quite simply put, a well-balanced individual is a risk taker. They desire the outcome so much that the fear of failure becomes secondary to the reward they seek. In order to achieve we must sometimes fail. Having a perspective shift in how we see and deal with failure is paramount. If you look at failure as a benchmark instead of an end you will purposefully fail more often. By benchmark we mean that if you try something and fail, the point at which you failed becomes the benchmark for what you need to do better the next time. This is how a well-balanced person approaches failure, in essence reversing the concept of failure into succeeding or winning. If you fail the first time at point “A” but the next attempt you surpass point “A”, then you have succeeded.
They have a life map. They do not just have a definition of balance and what it means to them but they have a list of objectives that start small and at a starting point and those outcomes and objectives have a succession path to an overall desired outcome for their life.
They have an eco-system. Balance lives in one part of our life but we also have success, lifestyle and person development. We look at these four cornerstones as the pillars to the Spartan Ecosystem and as such they are not competing or prioritized but rather essential pieces that must be weighted equally and coexist with equal focus and attention in order for us to achieve what we are looking for.
Get a free example and blank of what a “Spartan Life Map” looks like and fill it out with your answers. Just send us a message on our “CONTACT US” page and we’ll send it to you. Next, share it with your significant other, your family and friends. Welcome feedback and see how sharing something like this will also help you create accountability to yourself. Move the idea from concept to creation and remember one of the most powerful tools… “Don’t just think it, ink it!”
RECAP OF BALANCE
- Write down what balance looks like and means to you.
- Capture the outcomes you want from balance and write goals to support them.
- Get successful at failing!
- Capture and define your “Ecosystem”.
- Fill out your Spartan Life Map”